Post-Divorce Dating

O YOU'VE BEEN DIVORCED long enough to realize that parting ways with your "ex" was the most liberating thing that's happened to you since birth, and that being single again isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Not that you're looking to "settle down" or anything...but doncha think dining alone gets old after awhile? And who wants to think about getting "old" in any way, shape, or form?

Have you thought about getting a dog? I've been there - done that...several times actually. There are a number of valid excuses - er - reasons for having dogs, but we'll save that for another chat.

Really, I'm wondering where the thirty-forty-something singles are in this town. Are they all either dead or married? Looking for someplace to mingle with interesting single people? Got any ideas? I'll post 'em here if you lemme know.

Recently, my next-door neighbor told me about this little goody: pubmixer.com. It's a really simple concept: A certain someone named "Andrea" finds a new bar or cocktail lounge -- or chooses to revisit a gem -- and gathers 100-200 professional people ranging in age from late twenties through early forties to join her there for a no-host bar event. Andrea simply emails everyone on her list an invite with the location of that month's pubmixer. She does this out of the goodness of her heart (no advertising, no spam.) You can sign up for her email list and/or find out more about the variety of pubmixers she organizes on her website.

And just when you thought that there was no hope, alas, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Yeah, sure...ya gotta have faith in long wicks cuz this one is a wayz off, but hey, the illumination looks promising. To be published in early 2002 is: The Worst Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating and Sex by Joshua Priven. Finally, a rescue from the torture of yet another dateless Valentines Day! I'm gonna read this cover to cover with a brandy that night and consider myself lucky not to be out on some vision-impaired date. And for all you partnerless pessimists out there who say you're happier staying home than risking a chance encounter, here's the book that's gonna prove you're right (which is oh-so-important in the grand scheme of things, isn't it?) Pre-orders are now being taken at Amazon for this soon-to-be best seller. Sign up now through this link on DomestiCity to Amazon's secure server and consider it armor for Dreaded D'amour Day.